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‘Communication with a child has to be at the right age and stage’

Father of Mohd Daim Qadiri, who is in the nursery at Apeejay School, Panchsheel Park, says that his son has shown remarkable progress since he joined the school

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Every parent has interesting stories to tell when it comes to looking for a school for the toddler for the very first time. Some parents have it easy; they have already looked at and locked the school much in advance. They have even worked out the way that they can get the child admitted. For others, it is an arduous task of not only doing Internet research but also asking family and friends for recommendations. Yet others want to get their kid admitted to a particular school because when they were growing up, the school had gained prominence.

Abid Ali Qadiri and Tazeen Matto, parents of Mohd Daim Qadiri, who is in the nursery at Apeejay School, Panchsheel Park belong to the last category of parents. In a candid interview, Qadiri talks about why he chose Apeejay and the importance of communicating with your child.

Why did you choose Apeejay?

I was born and brought up in Delhi. As a student, I had heard about the Apeejay schools and the university. And I only heard good things about it and the work done by the foundation. So when my wife and I were looking for nursery admission for Mohd Daim we knew where we wanted him to go. We are lucky that he got admission here.

What are some of the changes that you have noticed in him?

He went to a preschool for a few months and in April, he joined offline schooling at Apeejay. There have been a few changes in the last eight months. When I compare this time with his preschool days, today, he knows how to read and write. He knows how to form words. He has also started taking part in a lot of school activities. He is enrolled in abacus classes and Sports Guru. While his learning has been a bit slow, we are not worried since he didn’t learn much in preschool.


Communicating with your child is a different ballgame. This is because it has to be done in a proper manner. Children pick up on things much faster. There has to be a right age and stage at which you must start communicating

Abid Ali QadIri, Public Sector Sales Manager-India, Jabra

Does he love going to school?

He is still a toddler. Most days he gets up enthused to go to school. He takes the school bus and has friends whom he has befriended en route. But once in a while, he has mood swings and doesn’t want to go. This is not something that we are concerned about at present.

Does your work take you away from home? How do you take time out for your son?

I do travel a lot. Sometimes, back-to-back for three weeks at a stretch. I work as Public Sector Sales Manager-India for a company called Jabra. But when I am home I spend whatever time that I have with Mohd Daim. We play games and also try to take him out sometimes. I take advantage of every minute that I have with him.

Most sons fail to have a connection with their fathers. How do you make this bond?

I would not say that it is always the case. Maybe there is a small percentage where this happens. It would be incorrect to generalise that sons bond with their mothers and daughters with their fathers. Even if it does happen, there is nothing wrong with this nor is it a problem. Every child has a bond with their parents – mother or father and sometimes both. The important thing is that there is a bond.

How do you communicate with your child?

Communication is extremely important. This is true for adults as well. But communicating with your child is a different ballgame. This is because it has to be done in a proper manner. Children pick up on things much faster. There has to be a right age and stage at which you must start communicating.

 Be open with your child. Find out what is happening in their lives and what they are thinking. Kids pick up things from everything around them. It is necessary to understand where they are coming from. Never be harsh with them even if they have made a mistake. Explain to them why their actions were wrong. Hence, having and building a relationship with your child is necessary.

Why are parents looking for a school with holistic development?

Most parents are looking for a school that is not just strong academically but has extracurricular activities as well because today, it is important to have overall development – professionally or personally. Parents look for 70-30 per cent when it comes to studies and co-curricular activities. It is always good to have academics that are backed by some activity that will help them explore their creative side and open a child’s mind to a wider world. And I would say that Apeejay has managed to achieve this balance.

Shalini is an Executive Editor with Apeejay Newsroom. With a PG Diploma in Business Management and Industrial Administration and an MA in Mass Communication, she was a former Associate Editor with News9live. She has worked on varied topics - from news-based to feature articles.

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