Are we happy or just searching for happiness? 

Happiness is a strange concept. Everyone tries their best to live a happy life, and each has their unique successes in that regard. So, this International Day of Happiness, let’s begin by understanding the nature in which we search for happiness in our lives as well as observe some habits that might interfere, and seek potential solutions for the same.

Social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook are helping us to stay connected with our family and friends, yet it may also add to the insecurities within us.  Shruti Aggarwal, a Counsellor at Apeejay School, Noida, asserts, “Even though, for most of us, social media and the internet has become a part of everyday life , we still do not necessarily feel connected or happy with our social circle.” 

In fact, Shruti says, “Social media can make us feel lonely, depressed, jealous, and we all know it is addictive without a doubt.” Thus, she reminds students to be mindful of how they spend time online. She mentions, “While avoiding social media and online activities is unsustainable for most, creating mindful digital practices can make all the difference.  One should disconnect from the digital world an hour before bedtime, and block digital-distractions while at work or when with family. One must also aim to enjoy device-free meals and try to mono-task instead of multitasking. Surely, setting aside specific hours for digital activities can be extremely beneficial.”

While the digital frankenstein can still be taken care of, good parenting skills play a significant role in adding to a child’s happiness. Shruti urges parents to let the child be themselves. She says, “Let your child make their own decisions. That will make them feel happy and is a key to building confidence. Let them express their feelings freely.  Remember to communicate actively with them, teach them gratitude and ensure that they follow their interests.”

Another factor affecting one’s happiness is career choices. Happiness is intrinsically linked to the career path we choose for ourselves. Many studies have revealed that the most consistent factor for career happiness is having engaging work. Shruti mentions, “If you are able to find what you love in your job, then you can find happiness in going to work. You can start doing this by asking yourself what your strengths are and how you can utilise them. When you enjoy the time you spend working, it also allows you to develop new skills and become more productive, thereby increasing your chances of moving up the career ladder. Keep in mind that the importance of happiness in your career affects not just work, but also your entire life. If you don’t put yourself first, then the stress you get in your job would lead to health issues and depression, among many other problems.”