Scholar-Journalist of the Week: Perils of a judgmental mindset

‘Live life to the fullest’, is the mantra Deeksha Prashar, a student of Apeejay College of Fine Arts (ACFA) lives by. Pursuing Psychology (Honours) from the institute, the Jalandhar-based girl enjoys reading books, writing, gardening and all things creative. In addition to these, she loves spending time and playing with her dog, Ranger. In an interview, the 21-year-old talks about her future aspirations and more. 

Why did you choose to write the article titled “Perils of a judgmental mindset”

There’s no specific reason for writing this article, this is something that I have seen around me and I wanted to express it via my writing. It’s a reality check for all those individuals, be it men or women, that belong to the rich and powerful groups trying to influence and exert control over other people living in some way or the other wanting them to be a part of their so-called glamorous and dazzling world. 

Have you faced any such judgement? Any incidents you wish to share? 

I think all of us have once encountered such situations in our life wherein we have been judged, even when meeting someone for the first time. And personally, I don’t think that we should hold on to such judgements. That’s why I would not like to rethink about it as it doesn’t matter to me anymore. But just like others I’ve faced such judgements too. 

What according to you can be a simple method to avoid being judgmental? 

In my article, I have mentioned that sometimes we end up blaming society for certain judgements and problems that prevail in our life.  For instance, we say that society restricts women from wearing some types of dresses. Without society, things would have been different. However, we fail to realise that society is just a mental picture; we are the building blocks of this society. Hence, the simplest method to avoid being judgemental is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and then you’ll realise their situation. Treat someone the way you want to be treated: it’s that simple!

Two ways individuals can develop a non-judgmental attitude? 

I know it’s our human nature to be judgemental but we’re the advanced species and so, we can do anything to make ourselves less judgemental. First, we should think before passing any judgement. One must try to understand the other person, his/her characteristics, cultural background, and most importantly the state of mind.  Secondly, we should learn the art of acceptance and accept the person for who he/she is. Also, it’s important to accept oneself. 

This world is a very competitive place to be and many hold the fear of being judged. What can one do in that scenario? 

The meaning of competition must be clear; it’s not about competing with someone else or constantly trying to do better than them. But to be more progressive than you are – that’s what competition means to me and I think one should only try to be the best version of oneself. 

Any writing inspiration? 

I like to observe everything around me and this helps me in noticing important things and sometimes applying few things in my day-to-day activity. I feel the true inspiration always lies in authentic situations and conversations. 

What does writing mean to you? 

Writing is my escape from the daily hustle of life –  it sets my thoughts free and provides liberty of imagination. What I generally don’t say, I write it out whether it’s about how my day went or something that was left unsaid. 

What is your future aspiration?

I am studying Psychology and I would like to pursue my career in this field. This is because the subject has taught me important life lessons. It has helped me to cope with many situations in my life such as how to adopt a positive attitude towards life regardless of the hardships. Not only this, Psychology also plays a huge role in changing society’s mindset and the perspectives of an individual. I aspire to specialise in this subject and help the ones struggling with mental health challenges.