From ‘Lit’ to ‘Fam’ – Decoding the teen language

Teenagers truly have a language of their own. It often involves using words and phrases that are not commonly known to adults. While some of these terms may seem silly or meaningless, many of them have deeper meanings that are quite important to teenagers’ social dynamics and identity.

According to Ms Malvika Sharma, Curriculum Coordinator and History educator at Apeejay Svran Global School, Sector 21-D, Faridabad, “Students use certain terms as part of friendly banter. Surely, it is a way to express their thoughts and emotions. Teenagers simply feel more connected when popular culture language or references are shared amongst each other.” However, as an educator, she advises students to refrain from using such terms in their examinations.

She continues, “When I was in college, similarly, we had certain terms only known to us. These words only differ from generation to generation. 35 years ago, ‘yaar’ was one among the some we were using. But again, anything abusive or offensive was never a practice.”

In the following list, we will explore some trending terms. How many do you know? Let’s see:

 “Slay”

It is often used as a verb to describe doing something extremely well or impressively. For example, “She slayed that performance!” However, the word also has a deeper meaning related to empowerment and self-confidence. When a teenager says they are “slaying,” they are often affirming their own power and strength. This is particularly significant given the pressure many teenagers face to fit in and conform to social norms. “Slaying” can be a way for teenagers to assert their individuality and celebrate their achievements.

 “Lit”

The word “lit” is used to express something that is exciting or fun. In teen culture, it has a positive connotation. It can be used to describe a party or event that is particularly pleasant.

“Savage”

Someone who is tough, bold, and unapologetic is ‘savage’. When used positively, it can be a way for teenagers to express admiration for someone who is confident and strong. Teenagers may use the word “savage” to describe a friend who stands up for themselves or takes risks, or they may use it to describe a celebrity who is unafraid to speak their mind.

“Bae”

This is simply a term of endearment that is often used to refer to a significant other. However, the word has a deeper meaning related to the desire for emotional intimacy and connection. “Bae” is an acronym for “before anyone else,” suggesting that a person is most important in the speaker’s life. It may mean a romantic partner, close friend or family member who they feel a deep connection towards.

 “Fam”

A shortened form of “family” or “familiar.” However, in teen language, the word has taken on a broader meaning to refer to a group of close friends or acquaintances. “Fam” is a way for teenagers to express their sense of community and belonging with their peers. They may use the same word to refer to a group of friends they feel particularly close to or to describe a larger social circle they are into.

“Extra”

If someone is being overly dramatic or attention-seeking, they can be called, ‘extra’. However, the word can also be used as a compliment to describe someone who is going above and beyond what is expected of them. “Extra” can translate into an admiration for someone who is bold and unapologetic in their self-expression. It is used to describe a friend who has a particularly unique sense of style or is unafraid to express their opinions.

Another educator from Apeejay School International, South Delhi, Ms Monika, says, “As a parent whose daughter is just about 10 years old, I google many such terms to know what it means. Of course, my goal is to discourage any usage that is hurtful but to be honest, parents must know these words. Why? Because they have to stay in tune with the times. Knowing them will at least make us (parents) feel a part of their conversations and thought process.” Further, the educator also advises students to practice restraint in the school and not make this informal mode of communication a habit with elders.

Finally, Mr Ankit Jaiswal, an Assistant Professor at Department of English, Shri Aurobindo College, University of Delhi, says, “As much as one feels comfortable, the boundaries between verbal and written communication must be maintained at all times. I advise everyone to also attempt to learn and understand all kinds of words before putting it out, be it an exam or a conversation.”