From small decisions to big growth

The decision‑making paradox refers to situations where logically the same decision problem, given identical information, can lead to different conclusions depending on the decision‑making method or criteria used. In simpler terms: Even when we think we’re being fair or systematic, different approaches may produce different ‘best’ solutions, which challenges the idea that there’s always a single ‘right’ decision.

This paradox is important in many ways:

• It shows that choices are rarely purely objective; context, method and mindset matter. Recognising this helps students, teachers, and parents understand that decisions aren’t always obvious or simple.
• It protects against overconfidence. Just because a method seems logical doesn’t guarantee the outcome is ‘correct’; acknowledging the paradox promotes humility and open‑mindedness.
• It offers insight into everyday dilemmas for children: choosing groups, projects, hobbies, balancing interests; real life isn’t black‑and‑white; this helps children appreciate nuance and think more carefully before acting.

Ms Ria Sharma, PGT Psychology and School Counsellor at Apeejay School, Mahavir Marg, explains that, “Helping children learn to make thoughtful decisions is more than about choosing ‘correctly’. It’s about empowering them to think, reflect, and take responsibility for their choices. By guiding children through a proper decision‑making process, listing pros and cons, prioritising what matters most, like interest, growth, time, and weighing trade‑offs, we teach them that there may not always be a single “perfect” answer, but there can be many ‘good’ choices depending on their values and goals.”

“Parents and teachers play a vital role in this journey, the educator added. “By offering guidance, not dictation, adults can help children consider not only what ‘feels right now’, but also what supports long-term well‑being, balance, and growth. When adults involve children in age-appropriate everyday decisions, it allows them real options, and respects their choices. Children grow up feeling valued, trusted, and confident in their judgment. Such supportive guidance also fosters responsibility, empathy, and self-esteem,” Ms Sharma said in conclusion.